We had school conferences recently, and I had all the usual feelings, I’m so proud of my girls, I appreciate our teachers so much. As I walked the halls, my daughter asked if I wanted to see her artwork in the display case. I couldn’t believe when I saw it. I was so inspired by the piece she had created. To rewind two months ago, she adamantly did not want to take art because she “heard” it’s hard to get an ‘A’ and she did not want to disrupt her GPA. She’s 12.
Seeing what she created really challenged me to ask myself some tough questions. Questions about the things I’m doing as a parent to encourage curiosity. About the ways directly (or implied) that I’m emphasizing what success looks like with school.
As we sat with her teachers, I changed up the type of questions I typically ask about her performance. I started asking the kinds of questions that I might ask someone with whom I am having a conversation about a job reference. In other words, the kinds of qualities that reflect leadership. What is she contributing to the environment of the classroom? How does she handle projects when there’s conflict? Does she seek better ways to do things? Does she let the fear of failure hold her back? Does she show initiative and follow through?
Because there are many things I'm looking for when I hire someone (that will take another blog), but at it's foundation, that's a really good start.